Here are two pictures that I think put it perfectly:
Here are two pictures that I think put it perfectly:
I just received my first book review 🙂 I thought it would be nice to return the favor but I’m not sure if/when I’ll find the time to read any of her books, but in the meantime feel free to read her review and visit her online. The review can be found here (at the bottom of the page) but here’s what she wrote:
Review by: Carolyn Flynn on July 19, 2012 :
A Guide to the Recovery Toolbox is entertaining, informative, and well written. It is a must read for anyone in recovery or considering attending a 12-step program. The insights and lessons learned are valuable and applicable to anyone. It flows like a personal blog with links to related topics at the end of each section. You can easily read the book straight through or jump to the topics of most interest or relevance to you. For those not in recovery, skim through or skip the sections about the 12-step groups because the rest of the book is worth reading.
Carloyn Flynn can be found here:
This post isn’t about recovery. I don’t like having to use this blog for non-recovery related things but I’m dealing with a situation that could make it difficult for people to find Recovery Book Press on Facebook. That alone isn’t so bad but Facebook’s help on this is nowhere to be found. Maybe making my request public will stir them to action, maybe this post will be a lesson for anyone else setting up a Facebook fan page.
Facebook has a feature called a fan page, which is different from the kind of page that a person would have. I won’t get into the differences, but a fan page is for promoting companies, businesses, products, etc. When I built an online presence for Recovery Book Press I created this blog, a Myspace Page, a Facebook page, and a Twitter account. What I didn’t know is that Facebook’s process for creating a fan page wasn’t user friendly. As I went through the process I made mistakes (because the instructions they give you are inadequate) and FaceBook is now telling me the mistakes can’t be fixed.
Personally I don’t believe that – I believe Facebook can fix the problems, they just don’t want to. It would cost time and money (but if they made a better product from the start they wouldn’t have to go back and fix things later). So what were my errors?
When you want to create a fan page you actually have to create two pages, a personal page and then the fan page. It turns out that certain information (like the user name you want on each page) cannot be the same. In my case I wanted the Fan page link to read:
(By the way, if you click the link above you’ll get a Facebook error page. I’ll explain why below.)
… so when I was asked what name I wanted my page to display I told it “RecoveryBookPress”. Makes sense, right? But they didn’t tell me I was creating a personal page, not the fan page. And they didn’t explain that once RecoveryBookPress was in use it couldn’t be used by any other page – even if I’m the one creating it. I created the personal page then Facebook wanted me to create the fan page. (“Huh? I thought I just did.”) So I created the fan page.
It gets even more confusing. I still didn’t know what mistake I’d made because Facebook’s policy is that while personal pages can configure a user name immediately fan pages can’t do so until the page has 30 “likes”. So while the personal page had the link I posted above the fan page’s link looked like this:
What makes this even more irritating is that after a few months Facebook did seem to acknowledge that there was a problem with the way the fan pages were handled. One day I logged in and there was a button to click on and text saying that clicking on the button would combine the two pages. I tried that. It seemed like it combined some things, but not everything. In many ways I’ve still got two pages.
And then last weekend when I finally got 30 likes on the fan page I went to configure the user name and was told I couldn’t – because it was already in use. So I went to the personal page and changed my username there, thinking maybe if I did it would free it up to be used on the fan page. No such luck. I waited 24 hours to see if maybe it just needed time to clear up in FaceBook’s system. Nope. According to FaceBook’s help section I will never be able to use RecoveryBookPress for the fan page on Facebook.
And now for the coup de grâce … if you have a Facebook page you can type “Recovery Book Press” in the search box where you search for friends … and Facebook will link you to our fan page. They manage to make it as confusing as possible, still connect you to whom you’re looking for, but can’t give you the link you want. Brilliant.
So the moral of the story is: if you need to set up a Facebook fan page someday be very careful when creating your personal account or you’ll end up blocking yourself from creating the page you intended. If you find this whole mess as annoying as I do, or if you’ve found yourself in the same situation with no help from Facebook, please share this.
I came across a quote today I’d like to share:
“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.” — Anais Nin
When I first read this I particularly liked the phrase, “We are mature in one realm, childish in another.” I grew up on The Muppet Show and at times my sense of humor can be really corny and silly … one of the tools I learned in recovery is that Being Child-Like Is Not The Same As Being Childish. In my teens I’d been shamed by my stepfather for my silliness and it took more than a decade to realize I need not feel any shame for joy in my childhood. I had to learn to give myself permission to start releasing it again, and now that I have this same sense of awe and joy I had in my childhood has served me well as an adult.
The same phrase also reminded me of a man I met this past week at a meeting. We talked after the meeting about early childhood development and how even through our teens and young adult phases we have certain needs … if our growth is halted in any of these phases it can stick with us for decades until we address that phase of development. All the time I hear about how men these days are nothing but grown up boys, and part of me has feared that having a Child-Like side could be interpreted that way. It was nice to be reminded that while some dimensions of my personality are well developed it’s okay that others are Child-Like. I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to be adult 100% of the time, in every way, and in fact trying to be probably isn’t natural. I’m happy the way I am. Layers, cells, constellations, and all.
I’ve gotten all the forms taken care of, printed a proof for myself, and everything’s taken care of! You can now purchase a copy in both eBook and paperback formats:
I’m pretty excited but I know this is just the beginning. I chose to self-publish the book to retain editorial control over the book but this means I don’t have access to a marketing department – so if you can, please tell your friends and spread the word. I would really like to see the book help as many as possible. I hope someday this index of the tools will become an important companion piece to the other well-known recovery books out there.